Making others feel at ease is the essence of etiquette yesterday and today.
You don’t have to be a master conversationalist to put someone at ease. Simply look them in the eye, give them your full attention and be a open listener. Everyone loves to feel like they are the only person in the room.
There are few words more elementary or more welcomed than please and thank you.
As a mom, I remember constantly telling my son, “Don’t forget your pleases and thank yous.” As a southerner, these words were ingrained in my brain at birth (along with Yes Ma’am). However, today we sometime forgot how important these little words are. Take the time to remember your “pleases and thank yous.”
Good moods are contagious. Hopefully, yours will be pleasantly catching.
My motto is “life is too short to be rude.” Walk around with a smile on your face and a sunny disposition. You will notice not only a marked improvement in your mental health but you will be amazed at the people that want to be around you
Be aware and considerate of personal space–physical, visual and aural.
Close talkers and close walkers. Need I say more?
Showing respect is a gift, one that costs nothing and is endlessly appreciated.
While it is easy to show respect to those in authority: parents, teachers, bosses, it is much harder to remember to show respect to those serving us. Be mindful and kind to those that help you: your waiters, your cashiers, the janitors. They should be respected and thanked for a job well done.
Think of your tone of voice as a telegraph. To the listener it speaks volumes.
I am a loud talker by nature. I have to be careful of this so that my excitement doesn’t come off as yelling.
A short fuse does nothing but burn. Should you find yourself with one, steer clear from others.
There is nothing worse than being around someone in a bad mood. Don’t be that person!
Never underestimate the message that’s sent by your poise and posture.
I went to etiquette school when I was a young girl. I was taught the proper way to walk and sit in a chair (and yes books on the head may have been involved). While I may have laxed a bit in my old age, I will always walk into a room with my shoulders back and my head held high. (Ms Pauline Murrs would be so proud!)
Clothes count. Appropriate attire is not only respectful, it’s refreshing.
Kate Spade says,”Showing an appreciation for time and place are reflected first in your appearance: it’s often what leaves a lasting impression as well.” Your clothes don’t have to be expensive but they do need to flatter your body and be appropriate for the occasion.
Let common sense be your guide and graciousness your goal.
Be mindful of little ways that you might be considerate towards others: holding the door open for the person behind you, greet shopworkers with a hello and how are you, tip your servers well. Leave a positive footprint wherever you go.
I love manners and etiquette books. In fact, I have amassed quite a collection over the years. The ten tips here were from Kate Spade’s book Manners. All of the commentary on her gentle reminders were my own.